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Lay Witness
Unclaimed
Treasure
Reservoir
of Mercy
by Fr. Ray Ryland
"What?
Me worry?"
Remember the picture of Alfred E. Neumann with this caption
on the cover of Mad Magazine? That was supposed to
be a rhetorical question. Now substitute a picture of the
average Catholic with the caption, "What? Me sin?"
That, too, would seem to be a rhetorical question.
Oh, yes, Catholics do regularly recite the confiteor in the
liturgy, but what does that mean? The vast majority of Catholics
make little or no use of the Sacrament of Reconciliation.
If questioned, any Catholic would admit that on occasion he
or she sins. But what does that mean? The real question is,
how often or even whether that person goes to Confession.
Fifty years ago Pope Pius XII declared that the greatest spiritual
problem of Catholics in the world of that day was a lack of
a sense of sin. Pope John Paul II has made the same observation
about Catholics today. The lack of a sense of sin means lack
of sensitivity to the many ways in which we offend God, both
by what we do and what we do not do. That lack of sensitivity
reflects a serious weakness in the quality of our relationship
with Jesus Christ.
Think of the saints. Reading their lives gives us the impression
that they were practically sinless. Yet every one of them
had an acute sense of sin. Teresa of Avila frequently asserts,
almost as a matter of fact, that she truly deserves to be
in hell. But by the grace of God she was a tower of strength
for Christ. Like all the other saints, she frequented the
Sacrament of Reconciliation. The more intimate our relationship
with Jesus, the more keenly we will be aware of the countless
ways in which we fail to respond to His infinite love for
us. And from that realization flows a desire to receive His
forgiveness through the means which He has established.
The grace of the Sacrament of Reconciliation is a great treasure
unclaimed by most Catholics. The first reason for this tragic
neglect is lack of a deep sense of sin. Priests frequently
encounter penitents who have great difficulty in thinking
of any sin to confess. God will reward them for coming to
Confession out of a sense of duty, but their lack of personal
spiritual insight prevents their deriving the full benefit
of the sacrament.
Rippling Effects
Another reason why Catholics in general don't seek the grace
of the Sacrament of Reconciliation is a failure to understand
the nature of sin. When the subject of this sacrament comes
up in conversation with non-Catholics, they inevitably ask,
"Why should I confess my sins to a priest? I confess
to God in the privacy of my own prayer life." Since most
Catholics seldom if ever go to Confession, I assume this non-Catholic
attitude has widely affected the thinking of Catholics.
At Union Theological Seminary, my Protestant professor, Paul
Tillich, commented on the non-Catholic revulsion against the
practice of Confession. Though not himself a penitent, he
said it was ironic that so many of those same Protestants
who abhor the idea of confessing one's sins to a priest will
unhesitatingly flock to psychiatrists' couches to tell all.
Remember that
sin always has both a vertical and horizontal dimension. Sin
is first a rebellion against God. It distances us from God
and, in the case of mortal sin, even cuts us off from God.
But each sin a person commits also harms the persons around
him, even though he and they may not be aware of the harm.
"If one member suffers, all suffer together . . ."
(1 Cor. 12:26).
Imagine standing beside a quiet pond and throwing a good-sized
rock into the center of the pond. Watch those concentric circles
go out and out from the point of impact. Eventually we lose
sight of where they go.
Sin is like that.
Think of the sinner as the point of impact. When he sins,
the effects of that sin go out from him and touch far more
lives than he can ever know. Now suppose that person becomes
contrite and in prayer asks God's forgiveness. The person
can be reconciled to God, but what about all the other persons
whom his sin has affected? Even if he knew the full effects
of his sin (and only God can know that), he could never go
to each person adversely affected and ask forgiveness.
Though we can privately seek and receive God's forgiveness,
we also need the forgiveness of the countless persons whom
we have harmed. But we have no way of seeking or receiving
that forgiveness. No way, that is, apart from the Sacrament
of Reconciliation.
Our Lord Jesus Christ in His infinite love has provided a
means whereby we not only can receive God's forgiveness but
also forgiveness from the community of persons affected by
our sin. Jesus Christ has empowered His priests not only to
speak on God's behalf, but also on behalf of the community
in mediating forgiveness to the penitent. There is no other
way by which communal forgiveness can be sought or received.
That's why the Sacrament of Reconciliation is not an optional
luxury for Catholics. Jesus never dealt in options. He has
given us this sacrament because He knows of our need for it.
And He expects us to use it.
Piercing the
Haze
To prepare ourselves for receiving the Sacrament of Reconciliation,
we cannot wait until a few minutes before we enter the confessional.
Regular, daily, self-examination is the necessary means for
preparing to make a responsible Confession. Before we go to
sleep at night we should think back on the day just ending.
Give thanks to God for the good things, recall the bad things
(omissions as well as commissions), and ask God's forgiveness.
Then before going into the confessional, we should take time
to pray over the period since our last Confession, asking
God to bring to our mind those sins He wants us to confess
specifically.
Note that word "specifically." The more specific
our Confession, the more honestly we face exactly what we
have done or failed to do, and the more clearly we see what
needs to be changed in our lives. Confessors often hear penitents
say, "I haven't been as thoughtful or as sensitive or
as loving as I should." So what? We all could honestly
say that. The real issue is, in what situations have you been
inattentive or insensitive or not loving? It's easy to say,
"I have not been as loving to my wife as I should be."
It's not so easy, but far more spiritually therapeutic, to
say, "On three occasions I spoke sharply to her"
or "On two occasions I ignored her feelings" or
"I didn't help her when she needed help."
When we probe our consciences in self-examination, we must
ferret out those wrong attitudes, thoughts, and feelings we
have harbored, as well as wrongful actions. Sometimes confessors
hear elderly penitents say, "I really don't have any
sins because I live alone." Do you see the assumption?
Unless I interact often with other persons, I don't have any
sins. That's false, and reflects a serious misunderstanding
of the sin in one's life.
Frequent Confession
When we allow many weeks and months to lapse between confessions,
we lose our ability to make a good Confession. We simply forget
a great deal of our sinful omissions and commissions, which
should be offered to God in the confessional. I strongly recommend
and follow the practice of going to Confession at least every
two or three weeks. When we go often, we can more fully open
our heart to Christ. We gain a certain facility in confessing
and learn to look forward to the opportunity of making a fresh
start. Many people have told me they have trouble going to
Confession. But none of them go frequently. Allowing for their
lack of understanding of the sacrament, I think-and tell them-the
infrequency of their Confession is a major cause of their
discomfort with the sacrament.
Our priests should regularly encourage the people they serve
to claim the great treasure of grace inherent in frequent
Confession. Occasional homilies on various aspects of the
Sacrament of Reconciliation would also help stir up a greater
response to this gift of Jesus Christ. Perhaps if we priests
made more time available for Confessions, more penitents would
come.
One fact is clear. Spiritual renewal and frequent Confession
go hand in hand as mutual cause and effect. With God's grace,
it's our responsibility to initiate and cultivate that renewal
by frequent Confession. Let that great treasure no longer
remain unclaimed!
Fr. Ray Ryland, Ph.D., an Anglican convert, is CUF's spiritual
advisor and writes from Steubenville, OH. He was featured
in our June '00 issue.
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